When you're doing everything “right” and it still feel like it's not enough
DOCTORAL-LEVEL PSYCHOLOGIST · FORT COLLINS, COLORADO
Individual therapy for adults navigating long-standing patterns of self-doubt, over-giving, and disconnection from their own needs.
Accepting new clients — usually within two weeks
PH.D., COLORADO STATE UNIVERSITY LICENSED PSYCHOLOGIST, CO #PSY.0006323 PRACTICING SINCE 2017 ACT · CBT · DBT · IPT · RCTYou've tried to fix this.
You've read the books. Done the work. Maybe even felt better for a while. But something underneath hasn't shifted — anxiety that won't settle, a heaviness that goes back further than you can always name, a habit of tending to everyone else's feelings before your own.
IT USUALLY WENT ONE OF TWO WAYS
that you're too sensitive, or taking things too seriously.
And some part of you started to believe it.
MAYBE YOU HEARD
you learned early to keep sadness, anger, or shame to yourself.
Until you stopped letting yourself feel them at all.
OR MAYBE THE OPPOSITE
If either is familiar, you're not alone — and it's not a personal failing. It's often the result of skills you built early: ways of managing your own or other people's emotions that made complete sense once, and now quietly cost you.
Anxiety that spirals into depression — a racing, urgent feeling that snowballs until you're stuck and can't move.
SOMETIMES IT SHOWS UP AS
The exhaustion of always being the strong one. Often, it's both — and they feed each other.
SOMETIMES AS
I work with adults ready to do the deeper work — understanding these patterns, processing what's underneath them, and building a different way of relating to yourself and the people you love.
This isn't a quick-fix model. It's for people ready to take their own history seriously.
I'm a doctoral-level psychologist, and I taught the clinical skills labs at Colorado State where therapists learn to do this work. My research was on family dynamics — how patterns form between parents and children, and what protects against them. I didn't just end up specializing in this; I studied it.
What I offer
One pattern, at
four points in a life
Almost every client I see learned early to manage everyone else's emotions — usually in a family where it was genuinely needed. If more than one of these sounds like you, that's expected.
Adults in their 20s and 30s
Long-standing anxiety or depression, self-doubt, or difficulty knowing what you actually want.
New mothers
Anxiety, exhaustion, resentment, or emotional numbness — often women who have always been the strong one and don't know how to ask for help.
Men navigating ambition and self-reliance
Where drive has come at a real cost — disconnection, anxiety about holding it all together, or never having learned that it's okay, even healthy, to lean on people close to you.
Women with adult children
Worn down by a dynamic that no longer works, and finding it hard to envision a different pattern for your own wellbeing.
What clients often notice
Not a promise of a particular outcome — everyone's process looks different — but it may help you picture what's possible.
Feeling more like themselves, with less weighing them down, than they have in years.
Feeling hopeful about the future again — genuine excitement, more energy, less of the flatness that brought them in.
Realizing a single relationship problem was sitting on top of a low, ongoing hum of depression that had gone unaddressed for a decade.
Realizing that nothing was actually wrong with them to begin with.
What therapy with me looks like
A lot of therapy either stays at the skills level, or goes straight into deep processing without enough groundwork. I do both, in sequence, because that's what actually holds.
PHASE ONE
A full picture of what's bringing you in and the longer pattern behind it, alongside a few grounding skills — so the deeper work ahead feels possible instead of overwhelming.
Finding solid footing
PHASE TWO
Beneath the surface to where these patterns actually live, processing the emotion underneath them rather than just talking about it — and coming back out each time.
Going in, coming out
PHASE THREE
Different choices, different boundaries, showing up differently in your relationships — built on ground that's already shifted, not layered on top of something unresolved.
New growth
Why some sessions need 90 minutes
Most of our work happens in the classic 50-minute therapy hour, and that length serves it well. But some sessions shouldn't be squeezed into it — your intake, and the focused processing work for trauma, panic, OCD and anxiety.
Those protocols were designed around 90 minutes, and the reason is practical: exposure and processing work needs enough runway to go into something hard, move through it, and come back out steady before you leave. Stopping partway because the clock ran out isn't a neutral outcome — it can leave you worse off than not starting that day.
Insurance typically reimburses around an hour, whatever the protocol calls for. Working privately means each session can be the length the treatment actually needs. Many clients use out-of-network benefits, and I'm glad to walk through what that looks like before we start.
AND WHY I WORK PRIVATELY
Ready to talk?
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation call to see if we're a good fit. Currently accepting new clients, with availability within about two weeks for flexible schedules.
